Bedwetting didn’t inhibit me from going to college. It shouldn’t inhibit anyone.
I lived in a dorm, with roommates and a shared bathroom, all four years. None of my roommates knew that I wet the bed.
I wore briefs as a precaution for the first semester of freshman year. I didn’t wet in that time. I had only wet a couple of times in the preceding year, so I decided to stop wearing protection. I did have a plastic cover on the mattress, and kept a disposable underpad (chux) under the sheet in the strategic spot.
I only had a couple of accidents in my first two years. I got up immediately, put on a terry robe to cover my wet nightgown, stripped the bed, dumped sheets and nightgown in the washer, got a quick shower, put on fresh sheets and nightgown and went back to bed. Fortunately, my roommate never woke up, the chux caught everything before it got to the mattress pad and I was able to get the wet things out of the room before they started to smell.
If I were to do it over as an occasional bedwetter, I would probably wear a washable lined pant, which would have been easier to deal with than a wet sheet and nightgown.
In the evening, I went in a shower stall, closed the door, put on a disposable brief, pulled a stretch panty over it to compress it and keep it quiet and put a big, baggy Lanz nightgown over it all.
In the morning, I went to the shower stall, took off the brief, put it in a Ziploc bag and took a shower. The Ziploc is a great invention; it seals in all the odor. I could dispose of the Ziploc’d brief at my leisure.
I had a big bag to carry everything back and forth to the shower. (See below.)
Check in with the student health service
When I started wetting again in college, my main concern was that disposables would be as inadequate as they had been when I was a teenager. It was one thing to wear a cloth diaper at home, where I could include them in the daily laundry of a large family. But daily laundry (or a diaper pail) would not have been practical in a dorm.
The SHS nurse studied the medical supply catalogs, and found Molicare briefs. They handled my worst bedwetting. She had the briefs for delivered to SHS. I picked them up a few at a time as needed, rather than having cases delivered and stored in my dorm.
Protect yourself from your bed
Put a plastic cover on the mattress. Even if you don’t wet the bed, it’s a good idea. College mattresses are vile.
Dark flannel sheets don’t show wetness (much) or stains. A drop of bathroom freshener will hide the smell of a small leak (if you can stand the smell of bathroom freshener).
Get a bathroom bag
Get a big canvas bag to carry stuff back and forth to the bathroom. If you have your towel, washcloth and toilet/makeup kit on top, nobody is going to look any deeper. Stacked from the bottom:
- gallon Ziploc bags
- barrier cream (Desitin)
- nightgown or pajamas and stretch pants
- toilet and makeup kits
Wear a robe or baggy pajamas and a stretch short
When I went to college, we girls all wore baggy flannel Lanz nighties. There’s no way to tell you’re wearing protection. Not sexy, but who are you trying to entice in a dorm bathroom?
A stretch short compresses a brief (or pad or washable pant), so that it makes less noise and is less noticeable.
A robe covers the wet spots on a nightgown or pajamas for the dash to the bathroom.
Put wet things in a Ziploc
Gallon Ziplocs are one of the great inventions of the 20th century. They lock in all the odor and make a handy package for disposal.
Really. There’s absolutely no reason why wetting the bed should inhibit anyone from doing anything, especially going to and enjoying college.
Really. I had a date pretty much every Friday and Saturday night. More here.
Say something on the freshman questionnaire?
I didn’t say anything about bedwetting on the freshman questionnaire. The SHS nurse told me that if I had, I could have been had a single room or shared a room with another self-identified bedwetter. I didn’t want that. I liked having roommates and didn’t want to restrict my pool of potential roommates.